Love Marriage vs Arrange Marriage:

  • Some people prefer a love marriage, whereas others are in favour of an arranged marriage. So, love marriage vs arranged marriage is an evergreen topic for discussion and debate.

Advantages of Love Marriage:

  • Marriage is a life-long commitment. So, the decision to choose a life partner should be in one’s own hands.
  • Love is the basis of any marriage. In love marriages, there will be no question of whether love happens or not.
  • In Love marriages, the couple knows each other very well and most probably they already understand each other fully. Hence, there won’t be many conflicts.
  • Those who want to go for a love marriage have more choices than those who go for an arranged marriage because arranged marriages mostly happen with people of the same caste/class/religion.
  • Planned love lives result in happy families.
  • Generally, equality prevails in love marriages.

Disadvantages of Love Marriage:

  • The couple who go for a love marriage is mostly independent. If they want to get out of the relationship, they do not consider relatives’ opinions and society much. So, they tend to go for divorce for even small reasons.
  • Love marriages are still socially unacceptable in some parts of India. That is the reason we are witnessing honour killings. So, it is quite risky for some people to go for a love marriage.
  • Youngsters may confuse attraction with love.
  • Love is not the only thing we need in life. One should also check the reality like the family background, economic conditions, the environment they grew up in, the person’s behaviour etc. to live a peaceful life and to avoid conflicts beforehand.
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Advantages of Arranged Marriage:

  • In arranged marriages, parents do inquire about each other’s family and their circle. So, there is a high probability that one will get into a relationship with a similar kind of family as theirs. This prevents trusting people blindly, which happens in some love marriages.
  • Parents or well-wishers think about future and economic conditions.
  • The couple most likely thinks about both of their families. So, they will learn to adjust, which is a very good quality for any relationship.
  • According to research conducted by Dr Robert Epstein, an American psychologist, love in love marriages tends to fade away with time, whereas love in arranged marriages grows with time.

Disadvantages of Arranged Marriage:

  • An arranged marriage is like a lottery. Love may or may not blossom between the couple. Some couples will face compatibility issues.
  • The couple does not know each other well if they spend less time together before marriage. If they have many differences to the extent that they cannot live together, marriage will break.
  • Too much submissiveness to elders may restrict couples from divorcing, even if they do not have love between them anymore.
  • Though the divorce rate is lower in arranged marriages compared to love marriages, it cannot be said that they are happily married. In general, some people who are living in unhappy marriages but are not able to divorce due to several reasons such as children, and societal pressure tend to opt for suicide.
  • People who go for arranged marriage may not be that comfortable discussing everything in detail before marriage. This may cause problems after marriage.
  • In the name of arranged marriages, forced marriages are still prevalent in many parts of India.
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Whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, the relationship will work only if both the partners are serious and honest in the relationship. Life partner must be selected according to their own will and not by force. These days, people are taking time to learn about each other before marriage even in arranged marriages. This is a sign of a progressive society.

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  • gourav singh bhadoriya, Aug 1, 2023 @ 6:16 pm Reply

    from my point of view love marriage or arrange marriage are two way of marry i can not say that which one is better way of marry .because in arrange marriage your parents find your partner and may be you never meet 1before to that person on the other hand in love marriage you find a partner for you .From whom you meet before you know him well but it doesn’t clarify that love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in some case your partner whom you love a lot may cheat on you future and give you a divorce .
    On the other hand a partner who is chose by your parents will never give you divorce by family pressure or may be you are connected to that person most or may you both will understand each other feeling habits like dislike .

    i think the most important thing is that what you doing it doesn’t matter which marriage are you doing you have to choose the right partner for you .
    A partner who really care about you who gives attention to you and the main thing who respect you and you should do the same things to him/her

    • Juwairiya, Nov 1, 2023 @ 7:55 am Reply

      Yes obviously true

  • Anna, Jun 28, 2023 @ 1:58 am Reply

    For me, I prefer love marriage. But, I will choose a person who has personality and qualities can be accepted my parents and me. Also, we must have a mutual understanding and respect, because I reckon that these things are crucial to get a healthy and happy marriage.

    • Nawaz Sharif, Sep 25, 2023 @ 10:50 pm Reply

      I think, arrange marriage are good because arrange marriage gives us gethered, happy and joy. In arrange marriage both parents their children best wishes for long life . So according to my point of view arrange marriage are good.

  • Anna, Jun 28, 2023 @ 1:30 am Reply

    Whether it’s a love marriage or an arranged marriage, we need to take time to learn about each other. Also, We must have an understanding and respect with our partners. These things are essential to get a happy marriage. On top of that, you should a person who has personality and qualities can be accepted by your parents and you, but it’s just my opinion.

  • Sarika gupta, Sep 16, 2020 @ 1:36 am Reply

    I liked this page very much as it allows us to discuss freely on the topics which are very common in our lives….
    When it comes to my comments on love vs arrange marriage…
    I would like to say that it depends on the compatibility between two of them and honesty towards each other… which can bring harmony to ur life nd if these two things are not there,then the marriage will surely suffer problems whether its a love marriage or arranged marriage…

  • Sukla das, Sep 4, 2020 @ 9:47 am Reply

    Those who love each other before marriage they are called love marriage . Initial stages they had romantic idias about life after marriage when they face the practical world there love became very hazy . Arrange marriage are organised by their guardians . Both of them are unknown person and their love attraction and commitment starts after marriage in their future life both of them face different type of problems in their life . Every solution of marriage is bondage between two person that is male and female . With out bondage marriage life can’t be successful .

    • Badari Annapareddy, Apr 16, 2021 @ 11:34 am Reply

      You are right. Success and failures are depending on their understanding and patience towards each other. Many more parents are interested in selecting the right way with the consent of the bride or groom.

  • Sakshi, Jun 3, 2020 @ 1:27 pm Reply

    No matter what type of marriage you want to marry. I think, it depends on your partner’s nature. The main point is how long will your partner will love you.for me, both the marriages have their own importance.but..i want to tell everyone that the selection of the lyf partner should be done carefully whether you have selected your partner yourself or by your parents. Bczzz… it’s not at all the selection of your business partner, room partner and so on It’s the selection of your lyf partner.🤗

    • Abhishek Shukla, Jul 21, 2020 @ 11:00 am Reply

      I really like your opinion it’s good though

    • Kalyani Gupta, Oct 14, 2020 @ 5:51 am Reply

      I really agree you dear,, because , it’s not matter of purchasing anything from the market .. if , this thing is not good for us ,, I can change and buy new thing ,,, It’s a matter of soul .. which is connected from your heart . If, any function will not contact properly and not work well . It will definitely fail.

    • Rasheeda, Dec 31, 2020 @ 7:21 pm Reply

      Ya I also agree with u because love whether arrange marriage their should have understood each other and have to be the trust

  • Pavithra, Jun 2, 2020 @ 7:32 pm Reply

    I prefer love marriage because i know my partner very well.. In every marriage their must be an adjustment in love marriage we can see that adjusting in love taking care of each other but in some arrange marriage fails… Mostly arranged marriage husband will be dominating but in love marriage we can see equality… But in India love marriages because of social circumstance.. Many people can’t marry their loved one this is the worst part ever… Girl or a boy should decide with whom they gonna live their rest of their life but in India deciding factor are taken by parents and family.. Over 90%of people sacrificing their love because of their family and force ably getting into arrange marriage

    • Sakshi, Jun 3, 2020 @ 12:47 pm Reply

      Yeah… I agree with you

    • Rasheeda, Dec 31, 2020 @ 7:26 pm Reply

      See i also agree with u but arrange marriage is also better option because I don’t care about the society because it is my life my choice if the patner is understandable and giving equal status to us and respecting our thoughts and choices it is not at all bad thing of arrange marriages .

    • Rasheeda, Jan 1, 2021 @ 9:22 pm Reply

      Yaa ,
      Love marriage is better choice than arrange marriage owing to self identification of life partner, her ideology on different aspects and most importantly self adjustment with her make us more resilient than arrange marriage.

  • Deepa Ramanathan, Jan 14, 2020 @ 2:22 pm Reply

    Whether love or arranged it has to be a happy marriage.

  • Balwant, Jan 13, 2020 @ 3:12 pm Reply

    Nice article most helpful for everyone.

  • Shivam kushwaha, Nov 13, 2019 @ 5:40 pm Reply


    • Vibhanshu Lodhi, Feb 9, 2021 @ 2:11 pm Reply

      ahahaha, jarur hoga vro…..
      Bas Bhagwaan Ji ki kripa bani rahe

  • Kartik, Sep 19, 2019 @ 9:56 pm Reply

    I Have favor in arrange marriage and i have not support to love marriage

    • Sakshi, Jun 3, 2020 @ 12:48 pm Reply

      What’s the reason behind your opinion

  • Gaurav Pandey, Aug 30, 2019 @ 11:28 pm Reply

    Love Marriage is understand the people each other, because each of the person has different Mind different thoughts, before Marriage there is no restriction between boy and girl, if the girl is 10 kilometres away boy still will come but after marriage, it will not be happened, when girls comes in boys house, she feels restrictions like she can not wear dresses of her own choice and she had to sit with every one that she does not want. there are many things all kind of.

    • Sakshi, Jun 3, 2020 @ 12:53 pm Reply

      Well said

    • Puneet, Dec 24, 2020 @ 8:52 am Reply

      Love marriage has less disadvantage

  • Sameer, Aug 27, 2019 @ 12:38 am Reply

    Arrange marriage is better than love. Because when a woman and a man live together love starts automatically. When we get arrange marriage all family members and relatives enjoy well. But totally different in love marriage. All family members live in fear. What neighbours will say. Sometimes parents die in shock by their boy/girl.

    • Sneha Jaiswal, Aug 29, 2020 @ 7:01 pm Reply

      I believe you are saying this because maybe you have not met a person, who is capable to understand you. When you will know what kind of partner you need, you won’t care about others.
      Lets suppose you have a wife and it was an arrange marriage. But after 2-3 years it turns out that she thinks in totally different ways and there is nothing you can talk to her or discuss with her.
      Would your family and neighbors will be able to help you or can you change your life?
      It is not about love marriage or arrange marriage. It is always about knowing what kind of person you can spend your life with.

  • Betty, Aug 6, 2019 @ 7:23 pm Reply

    Love marriage can able to understand equally

  • Reet vish, Jul 13, 2019 @ 11:42 pm Reply

    I think that arrange marriage is much better than love marriage… I would like to explain this in Hindi..
    Aaj kal k zamaane m love mrrg ka trend h… Abhi ko lagta h ki wow love mrrg hua h but aisa nhi h backs agr aap love marriage kr rhe ho apni marzi se maa baap ke khilaaf to wo v shi nhi h…bas no one can live without their mother and father … Aur agr aapne abhi meri se kiya h to bhi Aage jaakr koi problem hoti h to… Uss pr bhi maa baap bolenge… Aur love marriage ka ek sbse bda disadvantave yeh h ki aap love karke shaadi kiye ho to.. Shaadi k baad koi maza nhi reh jaata kuchh nya nhi reh jata within 1 year relationship m problem aane lagte h so.. That’s why i love arranged marriage …
    Its just opposite of love marriage
    😃😃😃😃 thanks.. N haa we should do arrange marriage bcos hm iss duniya mein just bcos of our mother and father Aye h ye hamare upr ek ke h to ise hme zarur pura karna chaiye unke mann k ladke ya ladki se shaadi karni chaiye…

    • Ananya, Apr 13, 2021 @ 8:19 pm Reply

      Parents give us life but before parents GOD give us life, GOD select our parents as a path for us to coming into the earth but it doesn’t mean they have the right to control our lives. Marriage is a big decision and this decision should be taken by the one who is going to marry. Doesn’t matter it’s a love marriage or arrange marriage, it should be done by the person’s choice. Because after marriage that person has to live with his/her partner, not to parents.

  • Chetan, Apr 29, 2019 @ 6:30 pm Reply

    Love marriage is best because before marriage both partners know each other very well

  • anil joshi, Apr 4, 2019 @ 5:08 pm Reply

    As we all know love marriage very much successful in India but divorce as you heard in news and in society and the main reason is that no family support in difficult situations whereas in arrange marriage we not know each other but the complication not arise after marriage and parents of both the couple also happy and support comes in the difficult situation.
    but the last and not least, love marriage is one of the method which reduce the caste system in India and change the Indian minds from the casteism.

    • Raju, Apr 30, 2019 @ 9:23 pm Reply

      Ya u r ri8 i saupported of love maairage and change the india mind

    • rohit, Jul 12, 2019 @ 1:03 pm Reply

      well said bro….

  • Puja singh, Mar 23, 2019 @ 8:24 am Reply

    Love marriage is better than arrange marriage because know each other and understand each other and helpfull survive and any situation support each other and respect each other

    • B R Singh, Jul 18, 2020 @ 4:38 pm Reply

      Both marriages are good but depend upon person.

  • Beauty singh, Mar 23, 2019 @ 8:17 am Reply

    I prefer arrange marriage because parents are support any problems arrange marriage love each other and support eachother any situation are enter in arrange marriage family support

  • Mahendra Bhamu, Jan 20, 2019 @ 10:21 am Reply

    Marriage means union of two people along with their family. In broad perspective marriage means two different family comes together to make a new relationship with each other and accepting each others customs, culture, thoughts and feelings.
    Now In my views in love marriage, first two person make love and than arrange themselves but in arrange marriage first two person are arrange and after tha t they make love.
    Now question is which one is more desirable love or arrange. So in my views at this putting the thought of what society accept. We have what is the perspective of that person. So if two people are in love and they think that they can continue this for forever, accepting all the flaws of each other than they should marry each other. If some other person think that I can and I will love the for forever irrespective of knkwing his flaws later with the person who is arranged for me, than arrange marriage is preferable.

  • Tinku Paul, Jan 15, 2019 @ 7:13 am Reply

    According to me love marriage and arrange marriage both are good but it depends on both partners. In love marriage both partners choose each other and arrange marriage it depends on both families their background , educational qualification, financial status etc if both families have consent then marriage happens. Marriage means bondage each other. In love marriage partners don’t care of family consent. They know each other and every people have some good and some bad quality . In love marriage before the marriage they meet each other , they spend little time each other I e they think they are made for each other but after marriage when they stay together then some drawbacks comes from any partner and they don’t want to accept each other because their relationship gets older and in most cases they don’t want to stay together , they go for divorce , but in arrange marriage it depends on family if any problem happens they talk to their parents and as they have a new relationship they want to adjust each other. Marriage means bondage both partners have to adjust each other and little sacrifice and dependency and they have to accept each other. Otherwise they will not be able to stay together.If it is unbearable I e different

  • Daya, Dec 28, 2018 @ 6:41 am Reply

    Love is gift of god so i am in favour of love marriage because in love marraige both partners known each other and they are spend time easy with enjoy. And thier relationship make strong. in love marriage both partner are known like dislike and behaviour and they think about thier future. T. H. A. N. K. S

  • Gitika, Aug 17, 2018 @ 2:55 pm Reply

    I think lovemrg is more successful bec both partner s knowing to each other. They knew d good or bad habits after marriage their relationship makes a strong bounding.

    • Lasya, Aug 23, 2018 @ 3:24 pm Reply


    • Mukesh, Nov 19, 2018 @ 3:10 pm Reply

      Yes, of course love marriage is more better than arrange. Im totally satisfied from your thought.

    • Aryan thakur, Mar 26, 2019 @ 7:02 pm Reply

      U r wrongbecause youngsters may confuse attraction with love. Love is not only thing she need in life. One should also check the reality like the family background, economical conditions,the environment they grew up in

    • kirthika, Mar 3, 2020 @ 5:13 pm Reply

      no matter is love marriage or arrange marriage. the couples had to live till the end successfully.

  • Archana chaturvedi, Jun 14, 2018 @ 2:07 pm Reply

    First of all I would like to say both are right but I support arrange marriage . Because it’s long lasting. What a marriage needs ? Understanding compromise , transpracy and trust on each other . If we miss the any point in these we loss our respect . Because it’s arranged by our parents and it’s more successful . If any person do arrange marriage then family ,relatives and good society respect you . I just stay with arranged marriage because , our parents keeping a lot of hopes on our marriage .so I don’t want dissapoint my parents . As our parents will love so much to us , they will choose a right person for is and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting To us .

    • Sharanjeet kumar, Oct 22, 2018 @ 4:45 pm Reply

      Life doesn’t end on compermise mam. And you say about trust there is also trust in love marriage. Why do you think that when a person do love marriage then he commit any type of crime . I think u see love marriage like a nuclear family but there are no any issues , persons having love marriage also live in combine family . Then there is his and her friends are available for moral support.

  • Shivam tiwari, May 11, 2018 @ 9:17 am Reply

    Both type marriage is good.,but love marriage depends on you and your partner,and arrange marriage depends on your fImly members and relative and every type of members of our society because love depends
    maturity and in this type of marriage u know very well each other .So I want to say that I accept love marriage and arrange marriage because arrange marriage like our society too much in future time and l understand very well in arrange marriage each other with time .,arrange marriage increases love in time…So love marriage increase divorce too much in our partner because in this type of marriage I know each other very well done time and after a long time we do not understand eachother and quarrel with each other so maximum time I divorce in time each other…

  • kavyajo, Mar 4, 2018 @ 2:23 pm Reply

    marriage is only depends upon both genes….they are going live one should interfere in that…it is only how they forwarding nd facing their life in difficult situation..

  • komal, Dec 2, 2017 @ 11:46 am Reply

    yes you are right

  • Ankit Patel, Nov 15, 2017 @ 8:19 pm Reply

    Both types of marriages are good. but if couple get arranged marriage so they will have family support, community support and relatives support. but couple needs some time to understand each other, after marriage they don’t give more time for each other.
    And in love marriage couple don’t have any type of support. They support each other and they have lots of time for understanding each other. And after marriage thay give more time to each other. So both types of marriages are equal.

  • sawan, Nov 1, 2017 @ 10:44 pm Reply

    Marriage is not only which happens between the two partners but its a journey of a new relationship between the two families. so mutual consent of a family plays a very important role in this. But for a sack of family one needs to sacrifice his/her whole life is not worth,because starting a new life with a big question mark will leads to a disaster.

  • Rajesh.T.V., Oct 31, 2017 @ 10:29 pm Reply

    In conclusion we can say that marriage happens in heaven, whether it is love or arranged marriage doesn’t matter, what is important is blessings from the couples’ parents, mutual understanding between the couples and transparency both before and after marriage eventually leading to trust and finally leading to love and equality.
    What also matters is the consciousness regarding the difference between infatuation and real love, love for flesh will fade away and love for the development of both couples not only mentally but also spiritually will lead them to a successful and prosperous life.

  • Nagendra Kumar, Jul 2, 2017 @ 1:20 am Reply

    Both marriage are good but depend upon person

    • Santosh verma, Jul 21, 2018 @ 12:12 pm Reply

      yes you are correct sir

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