Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage

Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage

Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage:

Advantages of Love Marriage:-

  • Marriage is a life-long commitment. So, the decision to choose the life partner should be in one’s own hands.
  • Love is the base of any marriage. In love marriages, there will be no question on whether love happens or not.
  • In Love marriages, the couple knew each other very well and most probably they already understood each other fully. Hence, there won’t be many conflicts.
  • Those who want to go for love marriage have more choices than those who go for an arranged marriage because arranged marriages mostly happen with the people of the same caste/class/religion.
  • Planned love lives results in happy families.
  • Generally, equality prevails in love marriages.

Disadvantages of Love Marriage:-

  • The couple who go for love marriage is mostly independent. If they want to get out of the relationship, they do not consider relatives opinions much.
  • Love marriages are still socially unacceptable in some parts of India. That is the reason we are witnessing honour killings. So, it is quite risky for some people to go for love marriage.
  • Youngsters may confuse attraction with love.
  • Love is not the only thing we need in life. One should also check the reality like the family background, economic conditions, the environment they grew up in etc.

Advantages of Arranged Marriage:-

  • In Arranged marriages, parents do inquire about each other’s family and their circle. So, there is a high probability that one will get into a relationship with a similar kind of family as theirs. This prevents trusting people blindly, which happens in some love marriages.
  • Parents or well-wishers think about future and economic conditions.
  • The couple most likely thinks about both of their families. So, they will learn to adjust, which is a very good quality for any relationship.
  • According to research conducted by Dr. Robert Epstein, love in love marriages tends to fade away with time, whereas love in arranged marriages grows with time.

Disadvantages of Arranged Marriage:-

  • Arranged marriage is like a lottery. Love may or may not blossom between the couple. Some couples will face compatibility issues.
  • The couple does not know each other well if they spend less time together before marriage. If they have many differences to the extent that they cannot live together, marriage will break.
  • Too much submissiveness to elders may restrict couple from divorcing, even if they do not have love in between them anymore.
  • Though the divorce rate is less in arranged marriages compared to love marriages, it cannot be said that they are happily married. In general, some people who are living in unhappy marriages but are not able to divorce due to several reasons such as children, societal pressure tend to opt for suicide.
  • People who go for arranged marriage may not be that comfortable to discuss everything in detail before marriage. This may cause problems after marriage.
  • In the name of arranged marriages, forced marriages are still prevalent in many parts of India.

Conclusion:-

Whether it is love or arranged marriage, the relationship will work only if both the partners are serious and honest in the relationship. Life partner must be selected according to their own will and not by force. These days, people are taking time to learn about each other before marriage even in arranged marriages. This is a sign of a progressive society.

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25 comments

  1. I think that arrange marriage is much better than love marriage… I would like to explain this in Hindi..
    So.
    Aaj kal k zamaane m love mrrg ka trend h… Abhi ko lagta h ki wow love mrrg hua h but aisa nhi h backs agr aap love marriage kr rhe ho apni marzi se maa baap ke khilaaf to wo v shi nhi h…bas no one can live without their mother and father … Aur agr aapne abhi meri se kiya h to bhi Aage jaakr koi problem hoti h to… Uss pr bhi maa baap bolenge… Aur love marriage ka ek sbse bda disadvantave yeh h ki aap love karke shaadi kiye ho to.. Shaadi k baad koi maza nhi reh jaata kuchh nya nhi reh jata within 1 year relationship m problem aane lagte h so.. That’s why i love arranged marriage …
    Its just opposite of love marriage
    😃😃😃😃 thanks.. N haa we should do arrange marriage bcos hm iss duniya mein just bcos of our mother and father Aye h ye hamare upr ek ke h to ise hme zarur pura karna chaiye unke mann k ladke ya ladki se shaadi karni chaiye…

  2. As we all know love marriage very much successful in India but divorce as you heard in news and in society and the main reason is that no family support in difficult situations whereas in arrange marriage we not know each other but the complication not arise after marriage and parents of both the couple also happy and support comes in the difficult situation.
    but the last and not least, love marriage is one of the method which reduce the caste system in India and change the Indian minds from the casteism.

  3. Love marriage is better than arrange marriage because know each other and understand each other and helpfull survive and any situation support each other and respect each other

  4. I prefer arrange marriage because parents are support any problems arrange marriage love each other and support eachother any situation are enter in arrange marriage family support

  5. Marriage means union of two people along with their family. In broad perspective marriage means two different family comes together to make a new relationship with each other and accepting each others customs, culture, thoughts and feelings.
    Now In my views in love marriage, first two person make love and than arrange themselves but in arrange marriage first two person are arrange and after tha t they make love.
    Now question is which one is more desirable love or arrange. So in my views at this putting the thought of what society accept. We have what is the perspective of that person. So if two people are in love and they think that they can continue this for forever, accepting all the flaws of each other than they should marry each other. If some other person think that I can and I will love the for forever irrespective of knkwing his flaws later with the person who is arranged for me, than arrange marriage is preferable.

  6. According to me love marriage and arrange marriage both are good but it depends on both partners. In love marriage both partners choose each other and arrange marriage it depends on both families their background , educational qualification, financial status etc if both families have consent then marriage happens. Marriage means bondage each other. In love marriage partners don’t care of family consent. They know each other and every people have some good and some bad quality . In love marriage before the marriage they meet each other , they spend little time each other I e they think they are made for each other but after marriage when they stay together then some drawbacks comes from any partner and they don’t want to accept each other because their relationship gets older and in most cases they don’t want to stay together , they go for divorce , but in arrange marriage it depends on family if any problem happens they talk to their parents and as they have a new relationship they want to adjust each other. Marriage means bondage both partners have to adjust each other and little sacrifice and dependency and they have to accept each other. Otherwise they will not be able to stay together.If it is unbearable I e different

  7. Love is gift of god so i am in favour of love marriage because in love marraige both partners known each other and they are spend time easy with enjoy. And thier relationship make strong. in love marriage both partner are known like dislike and behaviour and they think about thier future. T. H. A. N. K. S

  8. I think lovemrg is more successful bec both partner s knowing to each other. They knew d good or bad habits after marriage their relationship makes a strong bounding.

    1. U r wrongbecause youngsters may confuse attraction with love. Love is not only thing she need in life. One should also check the reality like the family background, economical conditions,the environment they grew up in

  9. First of all I would like to say both are right but I support arrange marriage . Because it’s long lasting. What a marriage needs ? Understanding compromise , transpracy and trust on each other . If we miss the any point in these we loss our respect . Because it’s arranged by our parents and it’s more successful . If any person do arrange marriage then family ,relatives and good society respect you . I just stay with arranged marriage because , our parents keeping a lot of hopes on our marriage .so I don’t want dissapoint my parents . As our parents will love so much to us , they will choose a right person for is and if any difficulty comes also our parents can be supporting To us .

    1. Life doesn’t end on compermise mam. And you say about trust there is also trust in love marriage. Why do you think that when a person do love marriage then he commit any type of crime . I think u see love marriage like a nuclear family but there are no any issues , persons having love marriage also live in combine family . Then there is his and her friends are available for moral support.

  10. Both type marriage is good.,but love marriage depends on you and your partner,and arrange marriage depends on your fImly members and relative and every type of members of our society because love depends
    maturity and in this type of marriage u know very well each other .So I want to say that I accept love marriage and arrange marriage because arrange marriage like our society too much in future time and l understand very well in arrange marriage each other with time .,arrange marriage increases love in time…So love marriage increase divorce too much in our partner because in this type of marriage I know each other very well done time and after a long time we do not understand eachother and quarrel with each other so maximum time I divorce in time each other…

  11. marriage is only depends upon both genes….they are going live together..no one should interfere in that…it is only how they forwarding nd facing their life in difficult situation..

  12. Both types of marriages are good. but if couple get arranged marriage so they will have family support, community support and relatives support. but couple needs some time to understand each other, after marriage they don’t give more time for each other.
    And in love marriage couple don’t have any type of support. They support each other and they have lots of time for understanding each other. And after marriage thay give more time to each other. So both types of marriages are equal.

  13. Marriage is not only which happens between the two partners but its a journey of a new relationship between the two families. so mutual consent of a family plays a very important role in this. But for a sack of family one needs to sacrifice his/her whole life is not worth,because starting a new life with a big question mark will leads to a disaster.

  14. In conclusion we can say that marriage happens in heaven, whether it is love or arranged marriage doesn’t matter, what is important is blessings from the couples’ parents, mutual understanding between the couples and transparency both before and after marriage eventually leading to trust and finally leading to love and equality.
    What also matters is the consciousness regarding the difference between infatuation and real love, love for flesh will fade away and love for the development of both couples not only mentally but also spiritually will lead them to a successful and prosperous life.

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